Of all the Yoruba / Nigerian concepts that have crossed into English usage, Àṣà has had perhaps the strangest journey. Àṣà and Parenting? The journey itself is part of the answer. To understand Àṣà now, you have to understand both the original and the diasporic version, and the gap between them.
What Àṣà Actually Means
Translators usually settle on something like: Àṣà is a Yoruba word for tradition, custom, or culture — but with a particular emphasis. Unlike a Western reading of 'tradition' as fixed inheritance, àṣà names tradition as practice — the continuous, adaptive doing of what has been found to work. It includes language, ritual, food, dress, courtesy, and the unspoken protocols of community life. It is the answer to the question: what do we keep doing, even as everything changes? It is a defensible translation. But translation is the surface. Àṣà carries underneath it a set of assumptions — about what a person is, what owes what to whom, and what success even means — that the English sentence cannot deliver.
The river that forgets its source will dry up.Yoruba
The Question This Post Is About
Raising children with Àṣà in a culture that doesn't share its assumptions. The question is worth taking seriously, because Àṣà is one of those concepts that loses its shape when handled carelessly — and recovers it as soon as the reader is willing to slow down and listen.
For the person living far from Nigeria, West Africa — in a city of strangers, in a flat of one, in a job that has nothing to do with the village they came from — Àṣà can feel like it belongs to someone else's life. It does not. The diasporic reading of Àṣà is not a watered-down version. It is a different test of the same idea. Team rituals are not abolished when they become inconvenient — they are revisited and renewed.
A Second Angle
Take the modern workplace as a test case. The dominant Western model treats the team as a coalition of individual contributors who happen to share a Slack channel — each evaluated alone, promoted alone, and let go alone. Àṣà starts somewhere different. It assumes that the unit of analysis is the team, that performance is co-produced, that to praise a single person without naming the people around them is a kind of category error. The implications are uncomfortable for managers trained in the Western model. Team rituals are not abolished when they become inconvenient — they are revisited and renewed.
Where the Concept Resists
It would be dishonest to pretend Àṣà is uncomplicated. The concept can be — and has been — used to suppress dissent in the name of harmony, to extract unpaid labour from women in the name of community, and to soften criticism that should have been sharper. Any serious reading of Àṣà has to hold these uses in view. The concept survives the criticism. But it is not innocent.
What to Do With This
The reading you have just done is one entry into Àṣà. There are many others. Yoruba elders, Nigeria, West Africa writers, and the daily life of communities that have lived this concept for centuries are richer sources than any essay. Treat this as a doorway, not a destination.